Internet Dating sites for losers or winners ?

[stewart38]

A friend of mine has just joined a internet dating site (no its not me !) and was convinced it was for sados but was pleasantly suprised by the expereince and has met someone through it

Is this the future of meeting people (for non dancers or even dancers or anyone) ?

:waycool:

[philsmove]

I Tried it once a few years ago and was presently surprised
One friend found her husband on the net
And quite a few friends have found “their significant others” this way

None of them are nerds, all are dancers and most of the people they have met have become dancers

[Lynn]

I also have a friend who 'met' her husband this way and another friend who had lots of fun dates with nice guys - until she met one she 'clicked' with who is now her boyfriend. Both met people suitable for them and met other interesting people along the way.

[Flash]

Dilema I had to face:
I was dating a guy who I met through friends. 6 months later I found him on an internet dating site, photo and profile.
:devil: so I joined the site not using my name obviously and he contacted me....long story, but he arranged to meet me. I went. He burst in to tears, I dumped him.

Question: He told me he never met anybody else from the site so by writing/communication online with other women - was he being unfaithful as he did not meet any one else?

Discuss!!!

[CJ]

Question: He told me he never met anybody else from the site so by writing/communication online with other women - was he being unfaithful as he did not meet any one else?

Discuss!!!

Thinking it through:

flirting isn't usually considered being unfaithful: having sex is.
therefore:
flirting on net wouldn't be unfaithful: MSN sex would be.


Yes/No?

PS Flash?
:hug:

[Gadget]

flirting isn't usually considered being unfaithful: having sex is.
therefore:
flirting on net wouldn't be unfaithful: MSN sex would be.
Anyone care to draw the line between flirting and foreplay?

[CJ]

Anyone care to draw the line between flirting and foreplay?

Is that, like, the difference between "I like you" and "How's about it?" :confused:

To bring this back on topic: my considered (?!?) opinion is that it's for losers to become winners!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:D

[Lory]

Anyone care to draw the line between flirting and foreplay?
I suppose it's all to do with the 'intention' of going further??? If you know what I mean? :blush: :o

[Gojive]

I see nothing wrong in how anyone choses to find their perfect partner, so long as they end up happy together.

Some people are very shy, and therefore internet dating is a great way for them to meet people without having to go through the horrible prospect of a face to face rejection :)

Each to their own I say! :flower:

ps...
Anyone care to draw the line between flirting and foreplay?


About 5 mins? :yum: :wink:

[Flash]

PS Flash?
:hug:

flashdating - see homepage

Also known as Nik

:flower:

[Stuart M]

Don't some folk consider this Forum a dating site?

:whistle:

[Dreadful Scathe]

Also known as Nik

what a stupid name :)


Anyway - I can't complain about internet dating sites, its through one* I met a woman called Mary who introduced me to Modern Jive. I wouldnt be here without them :)


* I was listed as 'short, fat, bald man seeks woman for incoherant conversations' or something similar. Worked out well though :)

[TheTramp]

* I was listed as 'short, fat, bald man seeks woman for incoherant conversations'
What a coincidence. Me too!!

Trampy

[JamesGeary]

Dilema I had to face:
I was dating a guy who I met through friends. 6 months later I found him on an internet dating site, photo and profile.
:devil: so I joined the site not using my name obviously and he contacted me....long story, but he arranged to meet me. I went. He burst in to tears, I dumped him.

Question: He told me he never met anybody else from the site so by writing/communication online with other women - was he being unfaithful as he did not meet any one else?

Discuss!!!

So, again, what were you doing on the internet dating site?

[CJ]

I suppose it's all to do with the 'intention' of going further??? If you know what I mean? :blush: :o

Nope... you're going to have to show me... :whistle:

[Dreadful Scathe]

So, again, what were you doing on the internet dating site?
A very good point - if someone 'discovers' someone on an Internet Dating site..are they not equally to blame ? :)

[CJ]

flashdating - see homepage

Also known as Nik

:flower:

So, is it acceptable practice for guys to last seconds doing the deed, then, here?!? Date, then be done in a flash... :D

However, before you answer my sensible point you have some mere trifling issue of why YOU were on that dating site...... :confused:

:whistle:

[baldrick]

So, again, what were you doing on the internet dating site?
And if he agreed to meet up then did he not fall for you all over again?

[Flash]

So, is it acceptable practice for guys to last seconds doing the deed, then, here?!? Date, then be done in a flash... :D

However, before you answer my sensible point you have some mere trifling issue of why YOU were on that dating site...... :confused:

:whistle:

To clear up the issue of why I was on the dating site.......my friend found the guy on the site while she was looking for herself and called me to let me know. I was never on the dating site prior to that.

As my profile states though I do prefer speed dating type events. For me it means I never get rejection or as is more usual in my case, have to reject a guy :rofl: , and for the guys, they never need ask the girl out. All they need to do is indicate a 'yes - I would like that person to have my email address'.
I also feel safe meeting new people in a group in a bar and not someone I met over the internet.

But as for the thread, a number of people find it difficult to meet new people so whether it is internet or face to face meetings the fact is that there are a lot of people out there who do actually want to meet someone. Typically I have found people who I have met to be out going enough to actually go to such and event and that when I speak to them, they have not had hours, days even to come up with a profile statement. They are winners for sure!!

[Flash]

So, is it acceptable practice for guys to last seconds doing the deed, then, here?!? Date, then be done in a flash... :D

:whistle:
And even the date only lasts for 3-4 minutes....you don't need to buy us drinks, take us out, feed us or anything.
But I will put one criteria down for you personally CJ - black leather kilt is a must!!

:rofl:

[CJ]

To clear up the issue of why I was on the dating site.......my friend found the guy on the site while she was looking for herself and called me to let me know. I was never on the dating site prior to that.


Yeah, yeah... THAT old chestnut?!? :really:


But I will put one criteria down for you personally CJ - black leather kilt is a must!!


See you @ BFG, then...

[Pammy]

was he being unfaithful as he did not meet any one else?

I don't think he was unfaithful, but I don't think he was worth keeping as a partner either... Totally unacceptable behaviour, I would say more down to a "lack of respect for your relationship" as opposed to a faithful issue.

Better off without him :flower:

[Pammy]

CJ - black leather kilt is a must!!

That way he wouldn't need to bother pulling them down, he could just spin :whistle:

[CJ]

That way he wouldn't need to bother pulling them down, he could just spin :whistle:

There's NO WAY I'm spinning if that's how you blow... " :whistle: "

:blush:
:worthy:

[Pammy]

There's NO WAY I'm spinning if that's how you blow... " :whistle: "

Eh? :what: :blush: :confused:

Blow what? Balloons???

Am I on the decorations then? :innocent:

I do have a lot of puff.... :whistle:

[Lory]

As my profile states though I do prefer speed dating type events.

I've helped run a couple of these speed dating events, in London and they're brilliant fun. :na:

At least the people are meeting in a public place, with no expectations that may have built up! :rolleyes:

[Boomer]

...One friend found her husband on the net
...

:really: Wasn't see a bit miffed that her husband was on a dateing site?

[Dreadful Scathe]

:really: Wasn't see a bit miffed that her husband was on a dateing site?
no no her husband was 'on the net' - probably just looking at porn!

[Flash]

I've helped run a couple of these speed dating events, in London and they're brilliant fun. :na:

At least the people are meeting in a public place, with no expectations that may have built up! :rolleyes:

Absolutely. Totally different from a night out on the pull, lads lined up against the bar and girls trying to attract the bloke from afar, probably with a crowd of girls around her ...... scary or what guys??

[philsmove]

Blow what? Balloons???

no thats my job www.bristolballoons.co.uk

[dannyboy]

I don't know ANY couples who have met in this way. I think it is a fad, and is over-rated.
Sorry.

[stewart38]

But as for the thread, a number of people find it difficult to meet new people so whether it is internet or face to face meetings

I tought internet does lead to face to face :sick:

[Pammy]

no no her husband was 'on the net' - probably just looking at porn!

Things brings me to another question. Do all men look at porn? :confused:

[CJ]

Things brings me to another question. Do all men look at porn? :confused:

Absolutely... just as all women dont!! :eek:

[Pammy]

Absolutely... just as all women dont!! :eek:

Pah! Forget that. You just concentrate on not getting your piercing caught in your kilt pin when on stage :wink:

[philsmove]

I don't know ANY couples who have met in this way. I think it is a fad, and is over-rated.
Sorry.

Well according to this site lots of unlikely people have met this way

http://www.marry-an-ugly-millionaire-online-dating-agency.com/index.htm

[Miss Marples]

Another question:

If you discovered a ceroc friend's details on an internet dating site, and they had "adult pictures" on it...

...would you look?

[Tessalicious]

I don't know ANY couples who have met in this way. I think it is a fad, and is over-rated.
Sorry.
Maybe you don't, but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. I know at least four married couples, and several more casual/just getting started relationships that have arisen either directly through internet dating sites or by meeting people on, say, multiplayer games or forums (not that anyone would use this particular upmarket institution as such, of course).

And although I've never done it, I can imagine that it would have its advantages - you can pick and choose people on the basis of common interests and personality, which have a much higher level of long-term importance than the physical characteristics that make someone stand out in a bar/club - but I still say that a social activity like dancing is a perfect combination of the advantages of both!

[Tessalicious]

Another question:

If you discovered a ceroc friend's details on an internet dating site, and they had "adult pictures" on it...

...would you look?Ooh, interesting idea... :devil:

Um, I mean, what an outrageous question, I can't imagine why anyone would even consider doing such a thing! :innocent:

[Minnie M]

I don't know ANY couples who have met in this way. I think it is a fad, and is over-rated. Sorry.

I know one very well known couple on the dance scene (one partner a dancer, now both dancers) who met this way and have been together now for a couple of years now - and still happy - however, I do think it is a one off

I met someone through the papers about 15 years ago and the relationship lasted 3 years. The reason why it finished is that he was still advertising etc., even when we were dating - until I found out that is !

IMO why do we need agencies when we are in a 'club' with mostly lovely people and we all have at least one thing in common as a starting point :clap:

[David Bailey]

we all have at least one thing in common as a starting point :clap:
Wossat then? :innocent:
Errr... we all go back on the right for the first move? Nah...
... we all despise pole-dancing. No... (amazingly)
.... we all live in a yellow subm - nope.

OK, I give up. :sad:

[Minnie M]

Wossat then? :innocent:
Errr... we all go back on the right for the first move? Nah...
... we all despise pole-dancing. No... (amazingly)
.... we all live in a yellow subm - nope.

OK, I give up. :sad:
:rofl: that's the second time you got me laughing tonight :rofl: you are obviously feeling better today :flower: :hug:

[Little Monkey]

IMO why do we need agencies when we are in a 'club' with mostly lovely people and we all have at least one thing in common as a starting point :clap:

Because there's not one single man my age at ceroc in Dundee (or anywhere else I've danced) that I'd like to go out with??? Call me picky, but....

I know loads of people who have met their other halves via internet or magazine ads. A family member of mine found his wife that way, and they've been together for...... Over seven years, married for six, and have two gorgeous kids. And my best mate in USA has just moved in with a lovely guy she met on the internet. And another friend of mine in Dundee has now got a boyfriend she met on the net. And I have myself had a couple of dates that way, and was seeing a guy for a wee while, but unfortunately it didn't last. :tears:

I think I'm getting increasingly fussy about who I'd want to go out with as I get older....... And my list of criteria is getting rather ridiculous! At least I could never go out with a couch potato, or someone who's main interests consist of drinking beer with his mates, watching football and who's idea of a perfect weekend is to get drunk, go clubbing and eat fast food! :(

Fussy Little Monkey

[David Bailey]

I know loads of people who have met their other halves via internet or magazine ads.
Now the Internet is so ubiquitous, the user population is much more reflective of the general population. It's just a communications channel; like the phone, newspaper, TV, you name it. So to me, there's no difference in using the Internet rather than any other channel (compared to say, 10-15 years ago, when it was mainly us geeks alltogether online). Similarly, there's no major difference in my mind between, say, online dating and speed dating - you use the method you're comfortable with, the aim is the same.

The only key difference is whether you use this or any other mechanism to specifically look for a date.

I think the majority of my single female friends have at least dabbled in one or more of these methods - some have succeeded, some haven't. But then, of those who haven't used these, some have succeeded, some haven't....

I imagine that, like all things, if you put enough effort into this, you're likely to succeed, for some definition of "success". But whether that makes you happy or not - hmm.... that's a Singletons Sofa discussion I think. :)


I think I'm getting increasingly fussy about who I'd want to go out with as I get older.......
Everyone does. Someone typically attractive to a 16-year old girl (flash car, loud, bit of a b*stard) is usually just a tw$t to a 36-year old woman. Good thing too :)

[Lory]

Winner or loser :confused: ....................

One of my clients has a sister who has two children in their early teens and recently met her 'now' husband on the internet. (about 18months ago)

Anyway, the result being she ended up marrying this guy after only 3months!!! :really:

He's been married 3 times before, has never had any kids of his own but the last two previous wifes have both had two each.

He is a multi millionaire! :cheers:

She now lives in a 6 bedroom house in Hampstead, has a 'live in' Nanny and a full time house keeper. :waycool:

They holiday 'once a month' in the south of France, where he owns a massive 70ft yacht, :waycool: they travel to and from said yacht in his private jet and when they're not on 'that' yacht, they're on another one they have on the Thames. :waycool:

She was made to sign a prenuptial agreement (what it said, I don't know) :cool:

Her children both now go to private schools but are NEVER invited on any of the trips, :sad: she's only seen her sister 3 times in the past year, since their marriage. :( She's also fallen out with her mother AND brother :tears: (all over her 'lack of parenting'. ) :mad:

The thirteen year old daughter has gone completely off the rails! :sick:

But he still 'insists' that she accompany him on ALL his holiday trips, as THAT was part of 'the deal'! :cool:

[Little Monkey]

Everyone does. Someone typically attractive to a 16-year old girl (flash car, loud, bit of a b*stard) is usually just a tw$t to a 36-year old woman. Good thing too :)

I'm not that old!!!!! :tears:

*Runs back to the singletons sofa for more ice cream*

[David Bailey]

I'm not that old!!!!! :tears:
Hey, I am - older in fact :tears:

[Little Monkey]

Hey, I am - older in fact :tears:

Aaaawwwwwww...... :hug: