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Lynn
5th-April-2007, 08:56 AM
(I'm sure there is a thread on this somewhere, but couldn't find one.)

I'm not enjoying dancing. I don't mean I'm feeling frustrated with my progress, bored with the style/music/partners, lacking challenge etc. I mean simply not enjoying dancing and don't particularly want to dance. :(

Its not a general thing as aside from that I'm in great form - the sun is shining and its spring. :waycool: :clap:

I had the grand total of 1 1/2 dances last night, having not actually wanted to be in the same room as the freestyle so that I wouldn't get asked to dance and end up just going through the motions. The one dance I had (in beginner freestyle) was because I was asked and because I wanted the person who asked me to have a good dance - but I really struggled.

Dance workshops and freestyle this Saturday that I was really looking forward to until this week. Still looking forward to the social bit and still intending to dance and do my best to enjoy myself.

Can someone please tell me this happens at times, that this is something other people have gone through and that the passion can return with a few good dances/good evening etc. Or do I need to take a complete break and if so, for how long?

straycat
5th-April-2007, 09:04 AM
Can someone please tell me this happens at times, that this is something other people have gone through and that the passion can return with a few good dances/good evening etc. Or do I need to take a complete break and if so, for how long?
This does happen sometimes - I've had months without dancing before now, purely because I didn't feel like going, and I've always gone back and ended up being more enthusiastic than ever.

Two things that can help (for me) - one is the break you mentioned, and the other is to find something new (in the dancing sense) - learn a different discipline (and not necessarily even a partner-dance one)

The worst thing (probably) would be to keep on doing something you're not particularly enjoying, in the same manner, without changing anything. That way lies madness.

Yliander
5th-April-2007, 09:07 AM
Can someone please tell me this happens at times, that this is something other people have gone through and that the passion can return with a few good dances/good evening etc. Or do I need to take a complete break and if so, for how long? :hug: yes darling it does happen. I have been looking forward to a dancing event – go there and for no reason I can pin down just don’t want to be there – despite the good music, great friends and lovely dances to be had.

As to how to fix it – for me a break of a week has usually done it – after that long not dancing I get twitchy, other times it’s been a fab dance, seeing a dance – video or real life that excits me about dance again or a workshop that has given me some inspiration.

The fix seems to be different each time – the thing that has been the same is that I have allowed myself to feel how I was feeling – but thing to remember is that – it’s ok to not feel like dancing – and if you relax and accept it then your more likely to move on from that place than if you keep beating yourself up about it.

and that is my 2 cents worth

Cruella
5th-April-2007, 09:14 AM
I'm not enjoying dancing. I don't mean I'm feeling frustrated with my progress, bored with the style/music/partners, lacking challenge etc. I mean simply not enjoying dancing and don't particularly want to dance.
I'm going through this too Lynn.

:( Can someone please tell me this happens at times, that this is something other people have gone through and that the passion can return with a few good dances/good evening etc. Or do I need to take a complete break and if so, for how long?

I had intended on having a break, but I couldn't do it! I still have the urge to go out and have a great nights dancing therefore find it difficult to not go. The problem is I don't enjoy it as much once i'm there. I find it really frustrating when i'm at a great venue with loads of lovely leads and music but I can't 'get into it'. I had a lovely night at Ashtons a few weeks ago but apart from that all the events lately have been a let down for me. I've had a great time socially but i'm struggling to get the buzz back. The only thing I did notice about the Ashtons night was that hardly any of the 'usual' crowd was there. I'm wondering if that was the reason it was a good night for me. It meant I danced with lots of new people. Maybe I need to make more of an effort to do this but it's hard when so many of the 'usual' crowd are such fab dancers.:sick:

Beowulf
5th-April-2007, 09:19 AM
Can someone please tell me this happens at times, that this is something other people have gone through and that the passion can return with a few good dances/good evening etc. Or do I need to take a complete break and if so, for how long?

I've been there and done that.. Twice! once for nearly 2 1/2 years absence from dancing and the second time for several months.

Both times I've come back renewed and full of energy and excitement for my dancing.

Right now due to medical issues I've not been dancing at all for a couple of months and I'm hating every minute of it. A few months ago I was completely uncaring about dance , it didn't interest me, I didn't enjoy it.

And here I am a few months later on absolutely straining at the bit to get back dancing. If you had told me then that I'd be desperately struggling with a painful condition to get back dancing I would have laughed in your face.

And I was never the most dedicated of dancers out there in the first place. So if I can lose and rekindle my dancing fires then anyone can. As said above, take a break, do something new.. one day you'll find yourself in the kitchen (as I did) listening to a song on the radio/hi-fi and before you know it you'll be dancing with the saucepans and leading the vacuum cleaner around the house :wink:

Your passion will return I'm sure of that !!

DianaS
5th-April-2007, 09:24 AM
This is a brave post :respect:
Probably in all honesty beyond most of us except for the lovely Blue smurf. But it's something that has afflicted me at times and to be honest I give into it. I can't be arsed, go through the motions talk more than I dance, and use dance as an opportunity to catch up with my friends giggle and gossip. http://www.cerocscotland.com/forum/359255-post1179.html

If someone asked me to dance I feel annoyed, if I enjoy it, I feel surprised.

Having said that I go through periods when I just don't want chocolate, passion is like the sea it comes in waves and abaits. When it abaits we feel the loss. And when it comes back we feel the surge. But we can't command it, in or out.
It comes and sweeps us along with it.

I spent a year sorting out my life getting all of the jobs done that I needed too and concentrating in putting every other aspect of my life in order. It took a year and I'm still working on it.

I still find in MJ nights when I'm pulled around I feel resentful I don't enjoy it and I don't want to go. However I'm loving my ballroom latin and tango - perhaps its the contrast?

Lynn i've spent time going for walks, enjoying the company of good friends and focusing on other aspects of my life. When I go to snowdonia for the dance weekend, the emphasis is being with my friends, eating walking and dancing. But dancing is part of it rather than the main course.

There are some compensations. I now have a lovely new bathroom, I've been away to Lanzorote and seen where new earth is made (volcanos), had a new lover and developed some new friends.
I'm attaching some photos for you to swoon over!

Lots of Love
diana
Xxx

Cruella
5th-April-2007, 09:28 AM
There are some compensations. I now have a lovely new bathroom, I've been away to Lanzorote and seen where new earth is made (volcanos), had a new lover and developed some new friends.
I'm attaching some photos for you to swoon over!

:eek: I hope they are of the Volcano or bathroom, not the loving!

DD+
5th-April-2007, 09:41 AM
Lynn ... i find this dancing lark a bit like running a marathon (Not that i've ever run one)...every once in a while you hit a brick wall and cant seem to get through it.....then out of the blue just one dance can bring it all back and then your realise just how much you love it. I was gonna pack it all in and then i found seahorse from the forum and he swept me off my feet. So whenever i get stuck in a rut i know there is someone out there who brings me back!:flower:

One one for seahorse:cheers:

LMC
5th-April-2007, 09:52 AM
Your relationship with dancing will have ups and downs, the same as any other relationship.

I agree with people who have said "Don't struggle with it, go with the flow". I had several months break last year and am still getting back up to speed. But the break was necessary and worthwhile. And the dancing didn't whine that I hadn't talked to it :D

I know it's harder for you, being so involved with the still-fairly-new franchise in NI. But you have to think of yourself first :hug:

DianaS
5th-April-2007, 09:53 AM
Cru-ella!!!! What are you like!!

I'll have a second go at uploading photos - make your own mind up!

Lou
5th-April-2007, 09:58 AM
Can someone please tell me this happens at times, that this is something other people have gone through and that the passion can return with a few good dances/good evening etc. Or do I need to take a complete break and if so, for how long?:hug: I've been going through it for over a year now. It started with my divorce, when I just didn't feel much like dancing. And now I'm dancing more again, I'm getting the sort of experience that Cruella mentions:
I find it really frustrating when i'm at a great venue with loads of lovely leads and music but I can't 'get into it'.
I got that at Utopia Evesham a while back. :( Despite the fact that Marc was DJing, and despite dancing with many of my fave partners - I just couldn't get into it.

However - I did have a fab time at BAWA in Bristol a couple of weeks back, so there's a glimmer of hope there. And it's that glimmer that keeps me going back.

I've had breaks in the past - but my enthusiasm's returned. I suspect this'll be the same this time, and that it'll be the same for you. :hug:


Having said that I go through periods when I just don't want chocolate,
Now that's weird. :rolleyes:

JonD
5th-April-2007, 10:30 AM
It's a relief that everyone seems to have dancing "flat spots". I know I suffer from them periodically. Normally they don't last too long and I suspect they are associated with times when I'm finding work a bit difficult for one reason or another so external factors certainly play a part.

I try to remember that the majority of people go dancing for purely social purposes and it's fine to do the same. I've even been known to turn up wearing trainers that you couldn't possibly dance in, and without any dance shoes, so that I can chat with my friends and legitimately decline any invitations to dance! Sometimes a passion for dance and a desire to learn and improve blinds me to the fact that dance is, primarily, a social activity and it's OK to get out of the "must do it well, must have fab dances" mindset when it starts to feel like you are on a treadmill.

I have a feeling that dance will always draw you back and that you'll start to delight in it again soon. It's in your blood - there is no escape!


I go through periods when I just don't want chocolate
I'm with Lou: that is very, very weird.

Northants Girly
5th-April-2007, 10:34 AM
It's so good to hear that it happens to other folk too :nice:

Daventry last weekend was my first dance night out for 3 weeks. I've got into the habit of sending Matt out dancing on his own :sad:

Really ought to make an effort to go to Rugby tonight though. Havn't been for weeks and weeks and last time they had a curry night the vegy samosas were yummy :drool:

Lynn
5th-April-2007, 10:50 AM
Thanks to everyone who have helped me feel less alone in this. :hug:

I was used to having breaks in my dancing - long breaks of a month, or even 3 months, with little or no dancing - its only been the past year or so that I can dance weekly and have only missed about half a dozen nights in the past 15 months. Aside from weekenders, I only dance once a week.

I do still enjoy the social side and had a good night last night chatting to people, I just didn't want to dance.

I've some fab weekenders lined up over the next 3 months, so I'm hoping that I'll enjoy those - but I know the company will be good even if I'm not enjoying the actual dancing as much.

Lynn i've spent time going for walks, enjoying the company of good friends and focusing on other aspects of my life. That's what I'd like to do. I have a few other non dancing things going on, I'd love a holiday (haven't had a non-dancing weekend away/holiday for quite a while) and I think maybe let dancing take a back seat for a while. And the walks thing - definitely - with the better weather coming in I really want to get out there - had a lovely walk last Sun afternoon.

Lynn
5th-April-2007, 11:20 AM
Its not just that I'm not 'getting into' the dancing - I've had times like that before where some evenings haven't been as much fun as usual. I have ways of dealing with that - eg focusing on helping beginners or my partners enjoyment of the dance, trying a different dance style. This is more I just don't want to get up and dance.
I've had breaks in the past - but my enthusiasm's returned. I suspect this'll be the same this time, and that it'll be the same for you. :hug: Hope so - thanks!

Encouraging to know this happens to others and that I will rediscover the passion.

DianaS
5th-April-2007, 11:54 AM
Some people may suggest that your becoming a hotshot :rofl: :rofl:


Would real hotshots like to comment!

Cruella
5th-April-2007, 12:01 PM
Some people may suggest that your becoming a hotshot :rofl: :rofl:


Would real hotshots like to comment!

I already did. :wink:

Sal
5th-April-2007, 12:01 PM
I got exactly that feeling just over a year ago. I gave up dancing totally, and as yet have not returned to it.

I blame it all on the fact that I met my wonderful boyfriend at the time, and didn't want to spend time away from him, even though he was a dancer too. We are now engaged and are getting married next year, so maybe I will get back into it after that, but I doubt it!

Bara Davies
5th-April-2007, 01:30 PM
I'm getting worried now - am I the ONLY one who DOESN'T get these lapses in enthusiasm!!! (And I can empathise with DD+'s Seahorse experience - great dancer!!)

Gadget
5th-April-2007, 01:31 PM
I blame it all on the fact that I met my wonderful boyfriend at the time, and didn't want to spend time away from him, even though he was a dancer too. We are now engaged and are getting married next year, so maybe I will get back into it after that, but I doubt it!:hug: now that's ashame :tears:... but congratz

{PS even on the 'flatest' nights, I still love to dance - perhaps it's being restriced so that you only can dance once a week or so?}

Groovemeister
5th-April-2007, 01:49 PM
I think some of the passion goes because thats the way we live our lives today anyway.

For me I know I had 5 years with out doing any dance of any kind at all. The funny thing was I knew there was something missing from my life, although I had got married and had 2 children.

At first I thought it was the dance music scene that i had been heavily involved in that I was missing but eventually I found that although it apeased some of the feelings I had it didn't satisfy them all.

When I decided to start doing dance lesson's again I found what was missing. Learning modern jive and dancing regularly has moved it on a stage. The thing is that the 5 years off is still fresh in my mind and because of the soul searching I did before I know how I feel now.

I think a break and re-evaluation is the best thing you can do to give you your enthusiasum back

JiveLad
5th-April-2007, 02:07 PM
I'm getting worried now - am I the ONLY one who DOESN'T get these lapses in enthusiasm!!! (And I can empathise with DD+'s Seahorse experience - great dancer!!)

I'm with you on this. No enthusiasm dips - although loss of form dips (as per previous thread).

Lynn
5th-April-2007, 03:05 PM
I've been dancing a few years, with some 'flat' nights, sometimes when it wasn't so much fun etc. But not to the point of preferring sitting in a different room chatting rather than being in the freestyle which is what I did last night! But I've only felt like this for a week or so, so I'll give it a bit longer and see how I feel on Sat night at the freestyle. :D

And its good to take a break and focus on other things.

Andy McGregor
5th-April-2007, 03:53 PM
I'm with Bara and Jive Lad.

I've never lost my passion for dance, it's been a life-long love since the era of disco in the '70s. Oh, I've had the odd moment when I haven't like the music or my partner-for-this-track or even the teacher of DJ. But I've known what it was, and it was never the dancing.

What is all this talk about "taking a break from dancing" :confused:

Dancing is the break.

My guess is that Lynn needs to find a new teacher/venue/partner/dance rather than feel the way she does - I know Lynn and it can't be the dancing that's lost it's passion for her. Perhaps it's just certain parts of dancing.

Speaking personally, if all I ever did was go to my local Ceroc venue once a week I would have lost the passion too :whistle:

Groovemeister
5th-April-2007, 04:18 PM
What is all this talk about "taking a break from dancing" :confused:

Dancing is the break.


I'm with you on that but sometimes it just takes you to step back and take a look at things.

My non-dancing period wasn't self inforced life just got in the way.

It now allows me to know how much I love dancing and that I do not want to stop again however I feel "drop in form" or otherwise.

I am sure I would have come to this realisation at some point anyway but not with the conviction I have now to keep on learning and developing my dancing ability.

Seahorse
5th-April-2007, 05:08 PM
...So whenever I get stuck in a rut I know there is someone out there who brings me back! :flower:

Whoaaaa!!!! I don't know how to follow that other than say thankyou DD. The thoughts are reciprocated :blush:

DianaS
5th-April-2007, 05:33 PM
Speaking personally, if all I ever did was go to my local Ceroc venue once a week I would have lost the passion too :whistle:


Yep nail on head! But if that is pretty much all that is around then you are stuck with limited choice - hense my migration to latin ballroom and AT

Lynn
6th-April-2007, 11:49 AM
My guess is that Lynn needs to find a new teacher/venue/partner/dance rather than feel the way she does - I know Lynn and it can't be the dancing that's lost it's passion for her. Perhaps it's just certain parts of dancing. You could be right. And I have a few 'new styles/partner' options to work on.

I'll continue to go along to my local venue, but I'll just socialise more and dance less for a while.


Yep nail on head! But if that is pretty much all that is around then you are stuck with limited choice - hense my migration to latin ballroom and ATYep - though for various reasons ballroom isn't an option at the moment and I've really, really tried to progress with AT but I need to be patient for a local scene to develop.

And Diana - I did actually think of a break to the Canaries as well, but work commitments seems to be ruling it out at the moment, maybe later in the year.

I hesitated before starting this thread, as it seems so strange for me not to want to dance - but I've really appreciated the comments on this thread and various other ways folk have been in contact, to offer advice and encouragement. Thanks. :hug:

And I'm not going to get stressed if I dance less than usual tomorrow night - I'm going to attempt to enjoy and savour the dances I do have.

Aorta
6th-April-2007, 03:10 PM
Whoaaaa!!!! I don't know how to follow that other than say thankyou DD. The thoughts are reciprocated :blush:

Big up yourself Seahorse - we laydeez love ya!

Seahorse
6th-April-2007, 03:59 PM
Big up yourself Seahorse - we laydeez love ya!
Errr... thanks! :flower: cringeing...

I'll try and add something to this thread when I've more time. But should just say that I go through phases when I'm unhappy tho I feel very fortunate to have a few partners/friends without whom I would be lost. I might not be able to tell them in person as we'd both be mortified but a single dance can often transform my evening. Indeed, when we've been through tricky phases at work (or when I was buying a flat earlier this year), my colleagues actually 'sent' me dancing.

And as a final solution... go back to doing classes. I think I've said the past as to how these seemed to give me some grounding. Learning to waltz (quite badly) last month suddenly made everything magical again.

drathzel
6th-April-2007, 04:06 PM
From my take on this lynn you have been enjoying dancing less since you injury.

My advice is to dance with the people that make you feel good (i'm sure luca and steve will be more than ready to help this weekend) and maybe ask advice on how to improve or take your dancing level up a notch.

Personally with my experience this week i cant wait for the weekend to be able to get up and dance.

also my offer of us getting together to learn wcs is still there, it might help you feel like you are moving on/trying new things/improving old things.

Also i hear that a good male dancer will be moving to NI very shortly for a work contract maybe the newness and experience in belfast will help everyone improve too.

I do agree a dance partner is a great way of getting excited again, how about pairing up and aiming for a comp or something. Maybe your lovely franchisee/teacher might also offer her help in this also.

Catch up with me tom and if there is anything i can do to help let me know:love:

Lynn
6th-April-2007, 04:25 PM
From my take on this lynn you have been enjoying dancing less since you injury. Don't think so - I had a fab time at Storm and my injury was very mild and is fully recovered. I also really enjoyed last month's freestyle.


My advice is to dance with the people that make you feel good (i'm sure luca and steve will be more than ready to help this weekend) and maybe ask advice on how to improve or take your dancing level up a notch.Its not about feeling 'stale' though, or feeling I've reached a plateau etc - and I have various things to look forward to over the next couple of months to add challenge to my dancing. I don't feel bad about my dancing either or feel I'm not 'getting into' it. I just don't feel in the mood to dance.

I'm not un-enthusiastic about dancing itself (I've just collected my car from the local garage after its service and arranged to go back and leave fliers for classes for the staff!) - I want other people to have a fab time, I just feel like being on the sidelines myself.

It could be because I've danced every week for a good while, I've used almost all my leave over the past couple of years on dance weekends and holidays (the other days I've used to do voluntary work) and maybe I just need a non-dancing break and a non-dancing focus for a while so that I can come back to dancing refreshed and enjoying it again.


Catch up with me tom and if there is anything i can do to help let me know:love: Thanks hun. I'm sure tomorrow will be fab!:hug:

Lynn
9th-April-2007, 12:03 PM
I enjoyed the workshop I did on Saturday. :D

I enjoyed the social side and hanging out with fellow dancers, esp all the visitors from Scotland!:waycool:

I did enjoy the dances I had, though didn't feel I was dancing particularly well - but then didn't expect to be if I wasn't feeling on form for dancing.

I just didn't really want to dance. I would have been quite happy to go home at 10pm. By the end of the evening I felt really flat - quite the opposite of how I normally feel at the end of a freestyle.

I don't think its the dancing itself (as I enjoyed the workshop and the dances I had) - I don't need any new dance challenge/style/partner etc. I just need a wee break from dancing, focus on some other things for a short while, and then I'll start enjoying it again.:clap:

fletch
9th-April-2007, 12:23 PM
Some people may suggest that your becoming a hotshot :rofl: :rofl:


Would real hotshots like to comment!

yes I agree :D

angelblue
9th-April-2007, 04:19 PM
Don't think so - I had a fab time at Storm and my injury was very mild and is fully recovered. I also really enjoyed last month's freestyle.

Its not about feeling 'stale' though, or feeling I've reached a plateau etc - and I have various things to look forward to over the next couple of months to add challenge to my dancing. I don't feel bad about my dancing either or feel I'm not 'getting into' it. I just don't feel in the mood to dance.

I'm not un-enthusiastic about dancing itself (I've just collected my car from the local garage after its service and arranged to go back and leave fliers for classes for the staff!) - I want other people to have a fab time, I just feel like being on the sidelines myself.

It could be because I've danced every week for a good while, I've used almost all my leave over the past couple of years on dance weekends and holidays (the other days I've used to do voluntary work) and maybe I just need a non-dancing break and a non-dancing focus for a while so that I can come back to dancing refreshed and enjoying it again.


Thanks hun. I'm sure tomorrow will be fab!:hug:


ITS ALL ABOUT THE MUSIC.......music played at a venue is definatley a catalyst for my good mood

....I do think a lttle break would be good. I had a similar thing happen a few weeks ago...went surfing for 3 days and then couldnt wait to get on the floor x

Feelingpink
9th-April-2007, 04:49 PM
...

I don't think its the dancing itself (as I enjoyed the workshop and the dances I had) - I don't need any new dance challenge/style/partner etc. I just need a wee break from dancing, focus on some other things for a short while, and then I'll start enjoying it again.:clap:Yup - sometimes it isn't that we need to do things within dance - rather outside it. I'm still 'nesting' in my almost-one-year-old apartment and it's lovely - probably the reason I haven't been to tango as much as I would have without it. Have a great break. :hug: :hug:

DianaS
10th-April-2007, 12:33 PM
I don't think its the dancing itself (as I enjoyed the workshop and the dances I had) - I don't need any new dance challenge/style/partner etc. I just need a wee break from dancing, focus on some other things for a short while, and then I'll start enjoying it again.:clap:


hmmm to do this dramatic moment justice you'll need a camper van, a fare well dance and a year bombing around the UK...
Just for starters if you fancy a weekend in the Midlands in the lovely city of Lichfield with no dance venues and not a place worth venturing to an area of 40 miles you'll be most welcome :clap:

We can go to the cinema / theatre / go rambling in the peak district, have afternoon teas, pub lunches and shop.

Nina also has a nifty iteniery of things to do when you are not dancing. For dranmatic breaks its so the way to go

Personally Lazorote was a hoot, and Paris is a must...
Lynn:- have camera will travel
Life's an adventure go get it gal!

Lynn
10th-April-2007, 01:19 PM
hmmm to do this dramatic moment justice you'll need a camper van, a fare well dance and a year bombing around the UK... Mmm, that would be nice- if I could work out a way of taking a prolonged break from work as well!


Personally Lazorote was a hoot, and Paris is a must... Am looking into options for a week in the sun - sightseeing and walking sounds like a plan.



Lynn:- have camera will travel
Life's an adventure go get it gal!:clap: I feel like some new adventures...:wink:

DianaS
10th-April-2007, 01:42 PM
Okay your On!

If any one has a holiday place they can make availabile to two burnt out dancers PM me details...

Lynn just a question,,, our summer break, we give up dancing but we don't you kow have to give up the rest? do we?? :confused:

you know, the guys, the clothes, shoes and chocolate. Staying up till dawn, driving home with the moon shining, we don't give up (gulp) and things like that? Just the boring bits you know.

We can still do the rest.Tango, weekenders and defiantely private lessons with top teachers
Infact I heard form a reputable source, that many top teachers give burnt out ladies free private lessons to aide their recovery. It's a well documented vital form of resussitation when nothing else will work.

I haven't talked this through with lynn but we may be persuaded to lend ourselves out strickly in the interests of science :devil:

DianaS
10th-April-2007, 10:27 PM
OMG!!! We have been PM'd the offer of a sumptuous apartment in Spain!!!!!

"there is some fantastic walking (protected areas) as well as beach - and of course, sun & sea(s)!

It is a penthouse apartment on La Manga strip - which overlooks the Marina and the Mar Menor on one side and the Mediterranean on the other.

2 bed/2 bath all mod cons............plus the roof top all to yourselves to lie out on - with built in bbq - etc."

***** I was just messing around while I was painting!!! I phoned Lynn (who wouldn't) and she has some things to attend to and won't be able to give an answer for a while:what:
Allegedly there are no dance venues for 5 hours (ceroc that is ) so we would be totally safe....

I'm on tender hooks, and dare not ask the question are there any tango classes cas that would be cheating...It's like a de tox after one week with no dancing we would know whether the passion had gone for good or whether it had abaited with the tide and would come back in its own course..

Its nearly a whole week to go before she can give an answer....

sidney
11th-April-2007, 12:23 PM
I am in that flat period at the moment regarding dancing, I still go to the odd freestyle but do not go to my local venue as that went off a long time ago with bad music, no experiance dancers to dance with etc, also I have been filling my time with non dancing activities going up and down the country seeing friends and family plus some great walks in the lakes. I have a dance holiday in dec but I am going to Spain with non dancing friends, and no weekenders booked this year but there again that was because women places was gone and my friends tend to differ and I don't like to book on my own, as i like to socalise. I hope i will get back that buzz but I need to try other forms of dancing as i want do classes again which I have been bored with the mj classes and need a challange.:sad:

Shodan
11th-April-2007, 01:52 PM
I'm having a lapse in enthusiasm as well. I get frustrated as most of the time its going through the same motion as I can't remember that many moves and stuff. So I get bored with the same old stuff. Yes ok I can play with different styles, but then that can get boring too.

I find it does help when I'm dancing with really good ladies as then they insert their own sabotages and playfullness and we do some new stuff.

Its why I don't just do Jive. I also do Salsa and Argentine Tango, gives a bit of variation. Even then, my lack of ability to remmeber moves is very frustrating. Fortunately my Tango partner is very forgiving.

Little Monkey
11th-April-2007, 03:10 PM
I've kind of lost the passion for dancing at the moment, too. Hang on, I've also lost the passion for my work, and for most other things..... I think I just need to escape for a while. Not entirely sure if running away will actually solve any problems, but it's very tempting!

Somewhere sunny, with very few people about, nice warm water to go swimming in, and a stack of good books would be nice. But I'd probably get bored with that as well after a couple of days! :rolleyes:

Lynn
12th-April-2007, 12:42 PM
Somewhere sunny, with very few people about, nice warm water to go swimming in, and a stack of good books would be nice. But I'd probably get bored with that as well after a couple of days! :rolleyes:Sounds like an excellent idea!:waycool:

I actually enjoyed myself last night! :clap: Not my best evening of dancing, but I didn't feel flat and depressed. Encouraging, esp as I'm heading off to WSM next weekend! (I know the company will be good and there will be some fabby dancers to watch, so even if I don't feel like dancing much it will be a good weekend.)

robd
16th-April-2007, 01:53 PM
Was going to post my weekend experiences at Utopia and Funky Lush in the weekend thread but figured it might be more appropriate in this one as at both events I didn't really feel like dancing. That seems a strange thing to say about a dance event but it's how I felt. Socially, both were good, music was fine and very listenable even if you were not dancing but I just didn't have that enthusiasm to dance with people and my view was that it was better to sit and talk and listen to the music than to 'go through the motions'. I had 17 dances at Utopia in 3.5 hours - the fact I can remember the number shows how few it was. Unfortunately some people cannot understand that you can be satisfied sometimes going to a dance event and just chatting and enjoying the social aspect and they think I am declining the offer of a dance because I don't like them and/or don't like dancing with them. Sometimes this may be true, as in the case of ******* but usually it's not so don't take it as so.

Rob

Cruella
16th-April-2007, 02:17 PM
. . Sometimes this may be true, as in the case of ******* but usually it's not so don't take it as so.

Rob

:na: to you too

Lynn
5th-July-2007, 10:00 AM
Somewhere sunny, with very few people about, nice warm water to go swimming in, and a stack of good books would be nice. But I'd probably get bored with that as well after a couple of days! :rolleyes:Thanks to a couple of forumites for the suggestion (and one in particular for making it possible :hug: ) I went for this option. And it worked! :clap:

A couple of weeks break and I felt like going out dancing last night. I really enjoyed the freestyle time, catching up with folk I hadn't danced with for a while, dancing with some totally new people.

The main thing is - I had fun dancing! I'm back! :D :clap:

It felt soooo good to enjoy myself dancing again. And I know, if I get a dancing low again, a break might be just what I need. Thanks to all for advice and sharing experiences.

rubyred
5th-July-2007, 10:29 AM
The main thing is - I had fun dancing! I'm back! :D :clap:





:clap: welcome back:clap:
:flower: :flower: :flower:

Trouble
5th-July-2007, 10:32 AM
yeah welcome back Lynn glad to hear your back on track.......

Anyway, i lost the passion, once in my life, i found reading a mills and boons book soon brought it back again.. :wink: :na:

On me own at the time tho. !! :respect:

Lynn
6th-July-2007, 10:09 AM
Thanks. Not enjoying dancing was really upsetting me - I had to leave freestyles early as I didn't want to get upset and bring other people down. Knowing that I had in the past got a lot of joy from dancing and wondering if that would ever come back, that real 'this is so much fun!' feeling, was difficult.

So feeling like that on Wed - I enjoyed every single dance - was such a relief.

I know others have said they felt jaded about their dancing and did get the fun back, but I know there must be people for whom that hasn't happened - they're not going to be on here or about as they've given up completely. I was worried that might happen to me.

So glad it hasn't - and others could tell by the big grin on my face all Wed night!

Lee Bartholomew
6th-July-2007, 10:24 AM
Had a conversation with BlueEyes last night. We are considering the Western champs and have been practising almost every night for the last few weeks. I really feel like I have lost the ability to dance at the mo and feel pretty down about it.

I found that I wasn't enjoying it as I was doing the same moves over and over again to the same music again and again. This norm isn't a problem if you go once a week, but to hear 'fire' every night for 5-6 nights in a row gets really demoralising. Makes it worse when you dont do classes as you are out the back working out comp stuff.

I think this problem is worse for men as women are more likely to get varied dances than the men. Women are going to be put in different moves almost every dance they have, where as us men are doing the same moves over and over.